713-909-6967 [email protected]

Sharing Values, a team building exercise

by | Jul 15, 2008 | Coaching, Facilitation Exercises, leadership, Systems Thinking | 2 comments

A few months ago, I was facilitating sprint retrospective for a multi-cultural team that had members of different national origins (UK, South Africa, Angola and United States). We started gathering information regarding their first sprint. I realized that this team was struggling to simply get along! We took a step back and created a focus for our retrospective. We elicited the following goal for our retrospective:

Retrospective Goal

During the course of this retrospective, team members discussed how they can improve trust, respect & communication within the team. The fact that the team had individuals from different cultural background was not missed. The crowning moment during the retrospective came when one of the team members said:

“In my culture, we have to be friends, for me to do good work. In the western culture, I have to do good work, for us to be friends.”

These words have echoed in my head for a very long time. His insight has been a great learning experience for me. I have learned to acknowledge and appreciate differences in individual values. But what are these values?

Exercise: Sharing Values

Step I: Identify a pair (optional)

Ask your team members to identify someone within the team that they are comfortable with. Ensure all pairs have been identified and if there are odd numbers of people, the facilitator can pair with the lone individual. Ensure that every one has some index cards and a sharpie.

Step II: I don’t like it …

On a single index card, ask each team member to complete this statement:

“I don’t like it when someone/people …… “

Encourage each team member to write down 2-5 such statements on separate index cards.

do_not_like_3

 

do_not_like2

 

I have found that it is easier for us to identify behaviors that we don’t like, especially when we have been at the receiving end.

Step III: Exchange Cards

After everyone is done writing, exchange all your cards with your partner.

Variation: If you have opted not to do Step I, then place all these cards in the basket/hat. Now randomly pick cards from the Basket/Hat. If you get a card that is yours, then place it back into the bucket/hat. Ensure all cards have been distributed.

Step IV: I like it …

On the back of each index card, write down a statement that will counter your partners “I don’t like it …” statement with

“I like it when someone/people….”


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You will be amazed how your team member’s insight into your hot-button issue helps you recognize behavior that you will truly appreciate!

Step V: Share Values

Go around the table where each team member reads aloud a statement that begins with “I like it when …”. Take turns reading one statement per team member at a time until all statements are exhausted.

These are your team’s value statements. These statements provide a simple list of positive behaviors that are currently valued in your team.

Caution: As a facilitator/scrummaster refrain from vocalizing these statements yourself. I believe it is very important for everyone in the team to hear these positive behavioral statements from their peers.

Step VI: Team Values Chart

On a Big Visible Chart only capture statements, that begin with “I like it when …”. Radiate this information in your team area for the benefit of your team members and others who interact with your team.

This exercise takes less than 30 minutes to do. Try this exercise again after a couple of months; see how far your team’s values have evolved. As a manager/scrummaster/team member, if you feel tempted to dictate good behaviors to your team, take a deep breath and try this exercise with them. Maybe, just maybe, your team will self-organize to correct its own behavior.

ps: Suggest destroying index cards that were used for this exercise.

2 Comments

  1. Dhaval Panchal

    Tom,

    I agree after “Step V: Share Values”, information gathered can be processed in different ways

    a) Brainstorm to create items for a working agreement. These items may not be sufficient to capture all aspects of working together, probably the cooperation angle.

    b) Do affinity grouping of similar items to rationalize the number of shared value statements.

    c) Affinity grouping with previously created items to focus on persistent trends.

    You also raise a good question – should a working agreement be enforceable? – I’ll save that for another entry..

    Thanks for guiding me beyond the obvious.

    cheers!
    Dhaval

    Reply
  2. Tom Perry

    Dhaval,

    A few thoughts:
    1) You could do a brainstorming exercise after all of this where you create items that are S.M.A.R.T. for inclusion on the working agreement. I feel that a working agreement needs to have items that are Small, Measurable, Achievable, Repeatable(?), and Tom-like(?). OK, maybe just the first three. A working agreement that only contains value statements…hmmm…is it really enforceable? should a working agreement be enforceable? I think so.
    2. I’m not sure where I would see this going over time, but It would be interesting to see if there were certain affinity groups that were persistent.

    Great topic!
    -Tom

    Reply

Trackbacks/Pingbacks

  1. Learning together as a team – Evolve Agility Inc. - […] again, or take time out to socialize over lunch. For an example of technique that I have used, see…

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

You May Also Like

The Conflict Escalation Ladder

The Conflict Escalation Ladder

Disagreements are not conflicts. Disagreements are a healthy part of a collaborative dynamic, but conflicts are not. The critical outcome is that people strengthen their relationships as they work through disagreements, whereas the result of the conflict is that...

Leadership stances for problem-solving

Leadership stances for problem-solving

A problem can be defined as the gap/difference between the things as desired and things as perceived. For example, it is close to noon, and I perceive hunger or rumblings in my tummy. I can attempt to close the gap/difference by making myself a sandwich or a salad and...

Time flies when you are learning

Time flies when you are learning

If you're like me, you're always looking for ways to improve yourself and your skill set. I'm transitioning in my career and knew that getting Scrum Alliance Certifications in Agile Leadership (CAL-E, O & T) was essential to increase my marketability and...